I see people having relationship problems lately, and i WAS one of them..WHy is love so freaking annoying?But at the same time it might be the best thing that happen in our life?Its like, when ur in a relationship ur happy, but when it comes to problem with relationship u say things like "im single now..good also..i can do whatever i like"..etc..It is good in the sense of freedom coz i dont believe in any relationship u get 100% freedom..i bet not even close to 90%..except for my cousin jik tau yat lau..tell the gf "if u wanna meet everyday i cant be the person for u..coz we're both still looking for 'the one'..one msg in the morning and one msg at night"..Do u wish ur relationship is like this?If im like this i think even when im 40 i cant find 'the perfect one'..back to the point..at one point of the relationship, u'll accept being 'unfreedomize' by ur bf..For example myself, i like freedom and i dont like ppl not giving me freedom, even my parents..i start going out with friends since i was Stand6(12/13?) and often until 10-12pm..But my mom didnt lecture me much..everybody will go through this phase, like my sis told me..so she didnt tie me up at home even when i was younger..people go through stuff and fall and be lala and then only be mature..back to the point..i had all the freedom i wanted when i was young and suddenly 3 years back(?) i went into a relationship with my boyf..at first our relationship was a little awkward..and there were problems..eventually it got better..and the freedom part started to come..But until now, i still complain from time to time..That i have not enough freedom blah blah blah..to my boyf..sometimes even quarrel because of the freedom matter..Compared the me now and the me before, i changed so much..If u asked me out now, most of the time i say no and give stupid excuse..from time to time my friends sms me to ask me out(even when they say they'll come over to fetch me), i rejected ALL of them..coz im too lazy to go out and show my face..Its a habit now..not because im afraid my Boyf dont like or what..Sometimes, i think why not meet up?catch up a little and talk..But in the end i call them to say i couldnt make it..coz im too lazy..Its true that when ur in a relationship u get very lazy and fat..Example number one, ME..the only time ur not lazy is when ur with ur Boyf..
Put freedom aside..The character excuse..People use this alot, to break up..People ask why then the victim say coz they have contradicting charateristics etc..Why so?If ur together with that person u should already know wht kind of a person he/she is..Dont tel me after 6months then u discovered that he/she is not the one for u because his character is not of what u fancy/wanted/look for..bullshit..unless u see him once a month, then MAYBE..Its just a lame excuse to kick u out from a relationship..I have been with people with no similar characteristics as me and i am currently in a relationship with one..is just the matter of time for u be like him/her and him/her be like u..i dont believe in people saying “i like u just the way u are and u dont have to change anything for me”..fuck u..i want my BF to change everything...seriously...and he wants me to change too..not because our characters are so different we have to be like this, its human nature..they want their partner to be “perfect”..dont tell me u dont want..coz ur just lying to yourself..If u dont means u dont have an idol or people u look up to..if u have an idol, why do u like him/her?is it coz of his/her looks, voice, attitude or wht they do?see..u get what i mean?if u dont, let me simplify it for u..if u say u have an idol and u dont want ur partner to change anything for u, then dont have an idol..the only reason why u have an idol because he is say, goodlooking?most of the people look at ur looks first, other than anything else..i say MOST, not all..
How should a person commit in both relationship and friendship..I dont know seriously, its really hard coz i cant balance it off until today..i meet my bf everyday and maybe once a month or longer than that for my friends..
· If ur bf doesn’t want to see u, this is a problem
· If ur in a normal relationship u at least see each other for once or twice a week
I hate guys who do the “gimme some time we need to cool things off”..or “lets not meet so often, i dont wanna continue like this”..if u dont want the girl then just have some courage to tell her u wanna end the relationship..dont just let it hang there and slowly not meeting each other and that’s the end..guys like this doesn’t deserve any girl..why is it when a guy wants u, they can do anything in the world to get u but once both are together everything just seems so useless..so different..he starts talking to her differently, treating her differently, ditching her for his friends and after awhile giving the sign that he dont want her anymore..
im not saying its just guys who do this to girls(some girls do this too, those immature ones)..but girls are said to be the weaker sex..so im taking this as an example..
